Thomas Merton Once Prayed

“My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going. 
I do not see the road ahead of me. 
I cannot know for certain where it will end. 
Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think that I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so.
But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact please you.

And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing. 
I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire. 
And I know that if I do this you will lead me by the right road though I may know nothing about it.
Therefore will I trust you always though I may seem to be lost and in the shadow of death.
I will not fear, for you are ever with me, and you will never leave me to face my perils alone.” 

― Thomas Merton



be afraid. be very afraid.

fear the possibility that you are not able to spend time with your family and friends, to do things you want, or to complete what you had to. fear that one day they’ll be gone, away, and out of reach. fear the words “losing,” “missing,” “wasting.” fear that you’re running out of time, because only then will you be afraid that your are not living your life to the fullest.

fear that you will be forced to choose a path. choosing a path mean having to miss out on others. it will be a pity if you live your entire life and simply looking back to regret the choices you (did not) make now. fear that you may not be able to follow all possible paths because life has so much to offer and it would be a relief to know that today is not an ultimatum and you will still have another chance tomorrow.

fear that you are running out of curiosity and a sense of wonder. it might limit your open mind, confine you in a box, and prevent you from being an explorer. fear the feeling of knowing everything, it makes you proud and uninterested to the things around you. fear that you don’t look forward to tomorrow. you may not look for the meaning of life and you will be stuck in a hole. now, that would be a pity because the world is full of wonders.

fear being dull or mediocre because you are not challenging the boundaries, daring to be different, or playing with the impractical. because this means you are a creature of the commonplace, a slave of the ordinary – together with the rest. instead, be outstanding. be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision to a sometimes-confused world.

fear that you may not have been true to yourself. because, denying who you are and not showcasing it to the world simply waste the space you occupy. by not letting your personality shine, you did not leave your footprint on earth, make a difference, change the world the way you were meant to be.

fear that you may start to “not give a fuck.” that means you don’t care anymore. when that time comes, you may not look for what you want, you may not stand for what you believe in, you may not fight for what you deserve. not caring might make you feel that you have no purpose and that’s sad because you won’t realise how different the world will be without you around. the world is your oyster and yes, you should give a damn.

so, my dear friend. if you are not careful, you may forget these. so, be afraid. be very afraid.

Always make time for other things.

As inspired by someone asking me, “where do you find the time to blog?”

Always find time to do things with your life. Both the shortest day and the longest day are always 24-hours long. it’s simply either you run the day or let the day run you. But if you ask me, utilize your time fully; maximize every minute. (Whoops! that might be the economist in me talking). Always make sure that you make the most with it. Make sure that you have time for your family, friends, work, and yourself. Time is more valuable than money. You can’t earn it, steal it, or take it back. Believe it or not, I’ve completed a short swim, a 2.5km run, a project meeting, and a set of panel questions within the past 2 days. While today and tomorrow, I’m off to dinner with my friends. Yet, I still have enough sleep and time to blog. (:

Oftentimes we hear people say, “I’m too busy.” But, in my opinion,  there’s no such thing as being “busy.” It’s all about managing time and setting priorities. “Focusing on [your career]” doesn’t mean you’re gonna do just that 24/7, 365 days a year. That simply makes you a boring 1Dimensional person. No one would want to be around such characters, not to mention hire them. “Focusing,” in general, means sitting there and putting in 100% of what you’ve got. Full concentration; no daydreaming, no procrastinating, no distraction. Then, after that stipulated time, go out there and do something else. Take the time to exercise, read the news, catch a movie, meet people, pick up a hobby or whatever – who cares?! This not only makes you a more “interesting” person, it also gives your mind a break and refreshes you for new ideas.

When planning your time, be active instead of passive. Plan to make it a little exciting. Seriously, would you look forward if it is something boring? Whatever it is, always make time. Time management means ensuring that there’s a time for everything instead of letting things be time-consuming.

Elizabeth Gilbert Once Said,

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, and make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life.

30 questions for you to think about

Credits to Alex Wain

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  1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
  2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
  3. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
  4. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
  5. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
  6. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
  7. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
  8. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
  9. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
  10. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
  11. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
  12. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
  13. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
  14. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
  15. Why are you, you?
  16. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
  17. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
  18. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
  19. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
  20. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
  21. If not now, then when?
  22. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
  23. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
  24. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
  25. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
  26. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
  27. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
  28. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
  29. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
  30. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

Life Lessons from Dr Seuss

(a collection of quotes from Dr Seuss)

  • I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!
  • Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.
  • From there to here, from here to there, funny things are everywhere! (One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish)
  • I like nonsense; it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living; it’s a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope. Which is what I do, and that enables you to laugh at life’s realities.
  • Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.
  • You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…. (Oh, the Places You’ll Go!)
  • All alone! Whether you like it or not, alone is something you’ll be quite a lot! (Oh, the Places You’ll Go! and The Lorax)
  • Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.  (Happy Birthday to You!)
  • A person’s a person, no matter how small. (Horton Hears a Who!)
  • Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not. (The Lorax)
  • Only you can control your future.
  • Why fit in when you were born to stand out?
  • Today I shall behave, as if this is the day I will be remembered.
  • If you never did you should. These things are fun and fun is good.
  • Being crazy isn’t enough.
  • You’ll miss the best things if you keep your eyes shut. (I Can Read With My Eyes Shut!)
  • Adults are just obsolete children and the hell with them.
  • When he worked, he really worked. But when he played, he really PLAYED.
  • Think and wonder, wonder and think.
  • You’ll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You’ll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left. (Oh, the Places You’ll Go!)
  • If things start happening, don’t worry, don’t stew, just go right along and you’ll start happening too.
  • Oh, the things you can find if you don’t stay behind!
  • ….You’re off to Great Places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting, So… get on your way! (Oh, the Places You’ll Go!)
  • ASAP. Whatever that means. It must mean, ‘Act swiftly awesome pacyderm! (Horton Hears a Who!)
  • Oh the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all. (Oh, the Places You’ll Go!)
  • I meant what I said and I said what I meant.
  • And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.) KID, YOU’LL MOVE MOUNTAINS! (Oh, the Places You’ll Go!)
  • Today was good. Today was fun. Tomorrow is another one.

A list.

This is a list of things i still wanna do for the rest of my life + things i would do if only i had no fear. so, these list will probably never be completed. but, i shall try to. I will try to.
  1. Leave myself a letter in a library book then, look for it twenty years later.
  2. Master a “plucking” guitar song (no strumming).
  3. Live in a hotel suite for a week.
  4. Milk a cow. Drink the milk.
  5. Own a pet dog. (for more than a year)
  6. Shoplift. Then, return it.
  7. Dine-and-dash!
  8. Live outside my homeland for at least a year.
  9. Complete a puzzle (500-piece?)
  10. Donate blood.
  11. Give a stranger a kidney.
  12. Create a signature dish. Be known for it.
  13. Baseball: hit a homerun.
  14. Break the car window shield with a baseball bat.
  15. Shoot with a gun.
  16. Learn how to jumpstart a car.
  17. Drive a vespa!
  18. Teach (basic) English or Math in a foreign country for half a  year.
  19. Write someone else’s life story without mentioning myself.
  20. Backpack + roadtrip.
  21. Sail a sea.
  22. Play chess until I unexpectedly beat someone, then quit forever.
  23. Live at a high altitude (mountain, rooftop, penthouse).
  24. Have a week-long silent retreat.
  25. Make a movie, even a short one.
  26. Sex on the beach – the cocktail.
  27. Sex on the beach – the act.
  28. Sex in a body of water.
  29. Be a bartender.
  30. Guest in a TV show.
  31. Learn proper sign language.
  32. Compile my old blogpost, poems, photos into one book.
  33. Get married.
  34. Get a tattoo.
  35. Be a (cool soccer) mom.
  36. Change careers.
  37. Drive a car…in Manila, Philippines.
  38. Fly off to Italy/Spain/Paris without telling anyone until I get there . Stay there for 2 weeks.
  39. Bull-riding.
  40. Bungee jumping.
  41. Mountain climbing.
  42. Skydiving.
  43. Paragliding.
  44. Para-sailing.
  45. Do a flip off a diving board. Nail it!
  46. Sing (with actions) on stage, in front of a crowd.
  47. Confess my feelings to the guy I like.
  48. Burst and scream at someone I’m pissed at.
  49. Get really really really high (but not in Singapore).
  50. Have a super duper romantic al fresco dinner date (even a picnic sounds good) wherein we will slow dance to a live music under the stars.
  51. No planning. Just list random things and blog it. —-DONE! (: