to the victims of unrequited love

to the victims of unrequited love,

you might be tired of getting close to someone and only ending up as the “best friend” and never the “girlfriend/boyfriend.” you might be tired of knowing that you’re great but not good enough. you might have sulked and wondered and hoped and felt sorry and thought through this over and over again. i guess, for someone so smart, we tend to be pretty stupid too huh? perhaps there were moments when you felt like you will be stuck like this forever because you can’t figure out what’s wrong with you.

but, my dear friend, there’s more to life than just sulking, wondering, hoping. There’s more to life and you deserve more than just this. and, the first step is to realise that it is NOT your fault. it is not like you are not awesome. in fact, i’m betting that there’s no one like you around anymore. We are just special, i guess. Unfortunately, people usually find it difficult to appreciate someone unique, different, and special. Therefore, it is their fault for not being able to appreciate us; that they are blind and stupid. It is their fault for not having an open-mind to give us a chance-to prove that we are good enough, to prove that we might be more than they hoped for. And, it is their loss because if only they chose us, they could have been happier than being with “the (seemingly perfect) one” they want.

But, as unfair as it is, while God gave us the freedom to love, the other person also has the freedom to NOT love us too. No one is obligated us back. And, it is something we can’t force (how i wish.) Apparently, it’s called free will. And, i guess, if we really love someone, we have to let them be happy–whatever that means. Sometimes, it means letting go. Sometimes, it means holding on to what’s left. Sometimes, it means letting them be with someone else. or, letting them commit “mistakes”-if that’s what you deem it to be.  Sometimes, it is accepting their decision even if we do not see the rationale. Sometimes, it means letting ourselves be hurt in ways we can’t even begin to explain. I guess that’s why 1 Corinthians 13 said that, “love is not selfish, it is not self-seeking.”

On the other hand, for us to start to heal, we owe it to ourselves to have some space too. We can’t pretend that everything’s going to be okay because they are not. because things are never going to be the same anymore. Until we have accepted the facts, me might still be hoping and praying ane never moving on, and along the way, still get hurt.

Yet, hold on, my dear friend, and don;t give up on loving and caring. According to 1 Corinthians 13, “(Love) always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” so we shall not give up. We still need to believe in the power of love and wake up everyday looking at the sunshine and it’s promise that “today, you have another chance.” because, good things come to those who wait and pretty soon, it will be your happily ever after too.


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